Warning: glowing post not for the TTCs
IT just happened. Unplanned. Unexpected. Before motherhood came, the last time I saw period was on my wedding day. Mr and I didn’t consider “planning” cos we agreed that the 1st child is like exams result to know if you’ll ever have kids. It’s not like we were crazy about babies but we were sure having children was in the picture. We didn’t think it would take place so fast but when it did, there was no turning back. Can’t deny I was terrified. One moment we were fussing over amp and guitar knobs, the next moment over steriliser and stroller knobs. I was not prepared. I don’t think anyone is ever prepared for motherhood.
Then, 2 years later, it happened again. But this time because I was determined on a small age-gap sibling for the firstborn (we even considered conceiving again 2 months later since firstborn happened in January so our kids could go to school in the same year). Because I liked having a brother and I would have liked more if he had been a more accommodating playmate (boys will be boys). Also for some selfish reasons, I wanted Mr and I to be able to do our own thing occasionally so leaving them behind would be less of a guilt when they have each other (still applies well here).
Can’t say motherhood has been a breeze. It has enjoyable moments but when you get meltdowns, you miss carefree times. I’ve come to terms with what’s past, present and future. It was hard cos I had a culture shock – firstborn was a difficult, difficult baby. But now I wouldn’t change a single thing. You realise you have so much love in you to give, you never would have imagined it before you have kids. If Mr and I had put in so much thoughts about having kids in the first place, it might never have happened at all.
